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Friday, February 13

Pubs and sex? What's the connection?

I really don't see a connection between pub hopping, drinking, sexual awareness and sexual intercourse. I'm commenting on the pink condom campaign against that of pink chaddis. I have hopped pubs, visited night clubs, danced in discos, tried drugs, chain smoked and even had friends from all possible faiths--all that when I was in high school and college. I never had sex in mind, ever. Neither did my friends. Yes, I was sexually aware and the consequences that it will lead to. I knew of condoms, of pills and the various medical methods that might come to aid when pregnant. And I must assure you, if willing, I had enough opportunities to indulge in passion. But somehow I knew there was time for it and that I will commit to the one I will love, not a regular boyfriend, and that there will be condoms involved.

The people sending pink condoms in reply to pink chaddis definitely are aware why condoms are used and I am sure they refrain from using it to avoid reducing sexual pleasure (citing religious reasons in the process as well, am sure). Well, sex is the most taboo-ed word in India, where I suppose the 1.2 billion population was not born out of virgin mothers. Families have 5-6 children in India, and sex is taboo? Well extremely hard to believe, but it's sadly India.

There is one more taboo in our country. That of night life. Let me tell you something, if there is no restriction and prejudice against night life, and it is treated normally as any other period in a day, people will be free to venture out and with enough people out on the streets, I am sure the mentally retarded sex maniacs and sexual assaulters can stay at bay. To cite an example, my editor and his wife just returned from a week long trip to Thailand and they were telling us how at midnight, they ventured into the marketing places to shop. They got a taxi to return to their hotel just like any other normal time of the day. They also informed us how there is no street sexual harrasment.

I really wish (utopic thoughts again) the politicians can look beyond religion and caste. Our country faces lot more problems than just religion. We are a secular and democratic country, governed by law, not moral polices who will decide if what we are doing is right or wrong! If somebody takes the wrong step, let them face it in life. Either they'll learn or face the consequences.

8 comments:

j0j0 said...

"I suppose the 1.2 billion population was not born out of virgin mothers. families have 5-6 children in India, and sex is taboo? Well extremely hard to believe, but it's sadly India."

Very well put Debi ^_^ ....

Tunai said...

well done debi....seriusly....
hats off....
short but hard hittin....

Debolina said...

I feel so so so angry these days. The definition of culture has changed! And uncultured goons will teach us culture. Its something like marxism. In Kolkata, I had asked 3-4 people what marxism was, neither even knew about Karl Marx, but they were party workers for CPI(M)!!! They should look up what the definition of culture is, it is ever changing!

IS said...

Very well written Deb.

I think the "secular and democratic" country is just being mocked at again and again... we are a bunch of herds being tossed in the hands of those who think India is US and those who think its a land of magic potions and herbs.
I wonder when will India left to be what it wants to be... and its people left to decide what they want to be!

The FortySomething Aunty said...

Sometimes I wish these "moral polices" concentrated instead on popularizing/ promoting Indian traditions than restricting us from practicing Western customs and ideologies.

And c'mon, shouldn't it be that that man? We're definitely old enough and mature enough to do what we want. And if we are wrong, we'll face the consequences! What's the big deal about it!

Shiven !! said...

Wow!!...............Fantastic Work!!

Harsha said...

i hope we could have all these sena people, the Islamic extremists, and other misinterpreters of religion, use condoms, so that we don't have another generation of such radical elements in our society..

Arnav said...

Well written ..